As a writer, I’ve always believed in the magic of words and as a reader, I’ve often felt their power. Stories and songs have that amazing ability to break through barriers and – teach, show, remind, and reach us. Quotes can be the distilled form of that magic – few words, with a powerful punch.
One of my favorite quotes is one I’ve found myself turning to many times over the last few years – “you never know how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have.”
And it’s true.
Exactly two years ago was the worst day of my life…
It was the day I discovered my ex was living a double life.
It felt like the rug had been pulled out from under me and I found myself over a yawning pit, struggling to make sense of the truth I’d learned.
It was a day that set my world on fire.
There were many painful days to come – of sorting through the hurt and taking a step back to see that relationship was more toxic than I’d realized and dangerous to my mental health.
But it was also the day I left.
And it was the day that I started to rebuild my life. It took strength to leave – as it always does – and it took strength to pull myself up and put the pieces of myself back together. Strength my ex (and even I) didn’t know that I had.
Exactly two years ago was the worst day of my life…Wait, that’s really not true. It was a terrible day. A fucking shitty day and it probably turned at least a few of the hairs on my head gray.
BUT, I mark it as my independence day, my anniversary to myself, a reminder of how strong I am and what I can overcome.
And you know what? My life is so much better now. I’m healthier, stronger, smarter, more confident, and have more than a little bad-assery in me. I don’t regret that day or wish it didn’t happen. It gave me scars but it didn’t break me, it set me free.
And (this is important) – if I can do it, so can you. Push through that struggle and sucker-punch that shitty day in the face. Show the world what you’re made of and that this pain can’t break you…that you’ll get past it and emerge stronger and wiser than before.
And when in doubt – repeat to yourself: