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Quotable – in a world where you can be anything…

“In a world where you can be anything.  Be kind.” – unknown

I don’t think this quote for my quotable Thursday series really needs all that much explanation, as I think we learned its basic principle in kindergarten.

You have the power to be anything; you control how you treat people. And with all of those options, choose to be kind…it’ll help make the world a better place.

On happiness

Today is National Happiness Happens Day 

As children, happiness comes easily – a funny sounding word, the sight of a puppy, or the first taste of candy.  But as adults, happiness can be more illusive.  We carve our lives into pieces, trying to determine if we have adequate amounts of happiness.  We ask ourselves hundreds of questions – does my job make me happy, am I happy with my weight, am I happy with what I look like, would I be happier if…?

It is important to ask ourselves these questions and to be the pilot of our lives, instead of a passenger.  But sometimes, too much awareness serves to make us more frustrated than happy.  While it’s important to be self-aware in life, I’ve found that performing a near-autopsy on every aspect of life and being overly hard on myself for being human can serve to drag me down instead of raising me up.

And sometimes despite our best efforts, fate seems to align the stars and planets to give you a spectacularly shitty day/month/year and even the most carefully deliberated decisions don’t seem to help.

Then what are we to do?  How can we find happiness?

Finding happiness is the great pursuit of our lives, the question we search to answer throughout our lives.

I answer this question for myself by taking pleasure in the small moments of happiness.  Small moments of happiness and of gratitude can find us anywhere – a bright and sunny day, cool breezes that caress your skin during an oppressively hot August, an extra few minutes of cuddling in bed before work, a smile from a friend, or the glistening layer of cheese on a New York or New Haven style pizza (this is true happiness btw).

Moments of happiness can happen all around us and sometimes they have the power to carry you through the day…which reminds me of a quote –

“It was only a sunny smile, and little it cost in the giving, but like morning light it scattered the night and made the day worth living.” – F. Scott Fitzgerald

Here’s hoping that happiness finds its way to you today, and every day.

 

Gratitude

She told me to try to frame it in terms of gratitude. What was I thankful for as a result? What wouldn't I have if not for it happening?

"The upside of painful knowledge is so much greater than the downside of blissful innocence." – Sheryl Sandberg

I've a confession to make –
Sometimes, I miss the innocent way I used to view the world. The way I would jump headlong into something – full of optimism, brimming with trust.

I used to give the benefit of the doubt without a second thought.
I used to give away second chances like they were in a fire sale.

I used to have rose-colored glasses superglued to my face.

But then, it happened. There may be beauty in truth but there is ugliness there too – so jarring that it jolts us into a new reality.

A reality where a therapist asks you what the upside is, the things you can find to be grateful for as a result of it.

I smile.

I am grateful –

For freedom
For knowledge
For opened eyes
For relationships I've kept
For relationships I've built and rebuilt
For strength and resilience I didn't know I had.

For true happiness that only found me in my after.

For surviving and building something better inside myself.

Quotable Thursday – kindness

I often pick Thursdays to showcase quotes that I love or that I’ve been thinking about.  Today, I’m picking a quote on kindness, which seems to be underrated lately.

“No act of kindness, no matter how small, is ever wasted.” -Aesop

I’ve been thinking about kindness a lot lately.  Not only in the recent political battles here in the U.S. and happenings on a global scale, but also in day to day life in our own local communities.  Where has kindness gone?

Kindness, in some people’s minds is seen as a sign of weakness.  Kindness given to strangers, unkind people, or people we don’t like is often viewed as wasted.  But it’s not.  Any act of kindness is worthwhile.  Even small, simple actions can help to brighten someone’s day or bolster someone when they need it most.  People who you disagree with, people who are different than you, nice people, friendly people, neighborhood grumps, and office cranky-pantsers – all of these people deserve kindness, after all, they are all people.

So be kind today, you never know who might need it.

 

You are worthy

A pick me up, if you need it –

Sometimes after people take advantage of you, it changes you.  You worry that no one else will value you, instead of the things you can buy them or the added self-esteem boost of having someone care for them.  Sometimes you screw up and kick yourself later over things you shouldn’t have done.

But regardless of the mistakes you’ve made before and regardless of the people who have hurt you before – you are worthy of love.  And you are always, always worthy of happiness.