She told me to try to frame it in terms of gratitude. What was I thankful for as a result? What wouldn't I have if not for it happening?
"The upside of painful knowledge is so much greater than the downside of blissful innocence." – Sheryl Sandberg
I've a confession to make –
Sometimes, I miss the innocent way I used to view the world. The way I would jump headlong into something – full of optimism, brimming with trust.
I used to give the benefit of the doubt without a second thought.
I used to give away second chances like they were in a fire sale.
I used to have rose-colored glasses superglued to my face.
But then, it happened. There may be beauty in truth but there is ugliness there too – so jarring that it jolts us into a new reality.
A reality where a therapist asks you what the upside is, the things you can find to be grateful for as a result of it.
I am grateful –
For opened eyes
For relationships I've kept
For relationships I've built and rebuilt
For strength and resilience I didn't know I had.
For true happiness that only found me in my after.
For surviving and building something better inside myself.