Down for the count

“One, two, three, four, tell me that you love me more…”  – Feist

It’s the tail-end of Women’s history month, so let’s talk about a modern day women’s issue  – being labeled for having a sex life and the surviving myth of “the count.”  And just so we’re clear, I’m talking about activities that are safe and consensual.

The count, in case you don’t know, is the number of people a woman has slept with…and there continues to be an obsession with it (and how small it “should” be).

But why?

Damned if I know.  Whatever the reason, both men and women engage in slut shaming and it needs to stop.

The solution?  It’s simple, really – the next time you find yourself wondering how many people your single female neighbor/barista/boss has been with or wagging your finger at someone who has had a few more partners than you, ask yourself this – how is that any of your business?  Done.

For all my fellow single ladies –  You just do you, girl.  And don’t let anyone make you feel bad about it.  You are a grown-ass woman and only have one person to answer to – you.